16 Magical Gardening Books And Novels To Gift Every Type Of Gardener In Your Life

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For a long time, I didn’t garden at all. I owned a solitary plant, a Christmas cactus a friend had given me, which I carried around for years, watching it bloom (or not bloom), get scratched up by my brother’s cat, dry out, and then blossom again. It’s graced the surface of five different coffee tables over the years, and it still sits next to me as I write.

I’m grateful for that first plant gift, and now, as years have gone by, and friends have introduced me to the wonders of cultivating a windowsill of succulents, or cooking purple carrots or broccoli that I’ve actually grown myself, I have a new reverence for the independent, staying power of greenery.

I think it’s fascinating how compost can make new, rich soil out of trash, and how a spider plant will yield more spider plants just by virtue of me keeping an eye on it and watering it occasionally. I treasured the tiny, plump cherry tomatoes and mini bell peppers that popped up out of the potted plant garden I created on my tiny back porch in Philadelphia. (Here are more urban gardening ideas.)

The riddle to all of this love of gardening, I think, is that there is something magical about watching things grow—watching food grow, even more so—and of having a literal hand in creating and encouraging that growth.

To that end, it’s no surprise to me that volumes upon volumes have been written on the wonder of gardening, of flowers, of greenery, of moss, even. To understand gardening is to slow down and understand nature, which is connected to how we understand life.

Read the rest on RodalesOrganicLife.com.

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I Reject That Occasional Mass Murder Is The Cost Of America

nevadaguns“We seem to have accepted that occasional mass murder is the cost of America,” an article in Mother Jones states.
I reject this. I refuse to let the National Rifle Association of America continue to get rich watching us die: at the movies, in school, at a country concert. They know commonsense gun laws wouldn’t diminish hunting, or guns for self-defense, or guns held by law-abiding citizens. That’s never what commonsense gun laws have been about: they’ve been about getting rid of automatic weapons, simple background checks and denying guns to people who have mental illness or are on a “do-not-fly” list. What is so hard about that? How can we continue to let people die like this? How is this worth it?
“The NRA is opposed to virtually every form of gun regulation, including restrictions on owning assault weapons, retention of databases of gun purchases, background checks on purchasers at gun shows and changes in the registration of firearms,” according to Opensecrets.org. Since 1998, the National Rifle Association has donated $3,781,803 to current members of Congress. Read more here.

“The crowd fled at the sound of gunshots. Imagine the deaths if the shooter had a silencer, which the NRA wants to make easier to get,” Hillary Clinton tweeted.

With our laws, with our support of the NRA, we are saying this is OK. We are letting this happen. If you are a gun owner, stand up to the NRA. Stand up for other people’s lives.

50 lives and counting gone in a second. What is worth that?

50 lives and counting gone in a second. What is worth that?

50 lives and counting gone in a second.

What is worth that?

This Company Is Turning Air Pollution Into Works Of Art

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Imagine if instead of your car emitting fumes out of its exhaust pipe, it was emitting ink that could be bottled, sold, and put to good use. That’s exactly how Anirudh Sharma, then an MIT graduate student, saw things when, upon returning to India for a conference, he realized that the pollution in the air was so heavy that it was leaving black flecks on his white shirt.

Read more at RodalesOrganicLife.com.

These Schools Sent Students To Meditation Instead Of Detention—Here’s What Happened

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I wrote this article for Rodale’s Organic Life:

Students in Baltimore are being sent to meditation and yoga practice when they act up in class and the results are extraordinary.

February 10, 2017
In some Baltimore schools, kids are no longer being sent to detention. Instead, if a student acts up, he goes to the Mindful Moment room for breathing exercises, meditation, and discussion. The room—and the methods taught therein—are part of a program created by Baltimore’s Holistic Life Foundation (HLF).

It started 15 years ago when a struggling school in a low-income neighborhood hired three Baltimore natives in their early twenties, Andres Gonzalez and brothers Ali and Atman Smith, to run an after-school football program for “problem kids.”

The trio agreed to facilitate, but pointed out that teaching the kids, who already had issues with aggression, how to smash into each other might not be the most productive means of calming them down.

Instead, the trio of young teachers took what they had learned from studying Eastern traditions and yoga, set aside the pads and helmets, and showed the kids how to practice mindfulness and downward dogs on repurposed wrestling mats. The results were transformational.

“The worst behaved kids became leaders among their peers,” Gonzalez says. “The ones who had been fighting became the ones breaking up fights.”

The now 37-year-old Gonzalez says many kids, particularly in low-income neighborhoods, are constantly surrounded by overwhelming stimuli that can make them high-strung, anxious, and defensive: some don’t get to eat before they come to school, or don’t get to sleep because there’s violence in the house; some don’t have parents at home because they’re dead or incarcerated.

“These kids are facing PTSD,” Gonzalez explains, “and they need solutions and coping mechanisms. For example, if Johnny has a fight in class, most schools will send him to the office. The moment he gets to the office he gets more upset, because now he knows his parents are going to be mad too. Then he gets suspended, and he gets even more upset. He didn’t get any tools or techniques to prevent future occurrences. But if you bring Johnny to a mindfulness room instead, he gets to talk with someone, and to learn breathing exercises and meditation tools that can help with balance and self-control. He also gets someone to look up to.”

I Do Not Deserve This President

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By: Gina Tomaine

The day after Donald Trump won the Electoral College, I went to work, climbed the stairs to my office, shut the door, crawled under my desk, and cried into my knees.

“I moved on her like a bitch, but I couldn’t get there. And she was married.”

Most people were upset at my office. But I was despondent. I was taken by surprise by the scope of my own despair. It was a depth of feeling I didn’t know I was capable of.

 “I did try and fuck her. She was married.”

The realization of Trump’s electoral victory came slowly, but then all at once, not like falling in love, more like the scene where they fall into the garbage chute in A New Hope, and realize they are surrounded by putrid waste, and about to be smooshed.

“Just kiss. I don’t even wait.

And when you’re a star, they let you do it.

You can do anything.”

I had been ensconced, I realized, in a rosy worldview born of my privilege and success in my life so far, an ignorance of what was right in front of me. Now, I looked around at the world with a simple and finite understanding of its lack of concern for me.

I felt adrift in my own female body as the truth dawned.

The truth: a man had bragged about sexual assault, and we had elected him president.

 “Grab them by the pussy. You can do anything.”

The next day, at noon I ran hard on a trail through the woods to clear my head. I tried to not think of anything at all, except my breaths in and out, my steps on the path.

When I came back to our open cafeteria during lunch, a friend wanted to see my Spibelt running pack, in case she wanted to buy one. She unzipped it, revealing my office key card, and a canister of pepper spray.

“What do you need that for?” a male friend at the table laughed.

“Because every time I go out for a run, guys harass me,” I said.

“No way,” he said, “Like what do they say?”

I raised my eyebrows.

“You really want examples?”

He nodded.

“Okay…. They say things like: Hey mommy; Hey baby; Move that ass; Aw yeah keep working it girl; Looking good in that outfit; Why don’t you slow down and come over here…”

He looked shocked.

“People actually say that to you?”

“Every. Time.”

“Plus,” nodding to our Pennsylvania surroundings, “this place is full of Trump voters, who apparently support sexual assault,” I said with arched eyebrows.

“No, they don’t!” he said, laughing a little.

“Trump literally said it’s OK to grab women by “their pussies.” And people still actually voted for him.”

I knew the direct equation wasn’t true and it was just a factor of me being upset that day. I knew the many people who voted for Trump, including those close to me, had their own reasons for overlooking the candidate’s various warning signs and character flaws, and voting in spite of, and not because of, his bigotry and sexism. I also knew it wasn’t my friend’s fault that this had happened. It was actually impressive that he asked. Most men don’t want to know.

In that exchange, though, a broader truth dawned on me: most men actually didn’t know, couldn’t even comprehend, what is so obvious to every woman: how much we are harassed, in tiny ways, day in and day out.

In a recent Runner’s World article on “Running While Female,” even the men who work at the title admitted that they also had no idea how much harassment and verbal abuse we face on the road, and how those smaller, bearable abuses always comes with the terror-inducing side dish of the chance of physical attack or rape.

That shocked me, too, until I realized, as women, we don’t talk about it. We accept so much of these verbal abuses as a fact of life, something we shrug off, or laugh about, or just keep quiet and hope it goes away because it makes us more uncomfortable to admit it happened, and it makes others uncomfortable when we admit it.

That silence has somehow led to many people I know thinking it is okay, and normal, for a man to disparage women and still be a public role model for our country.

I knew from how I handled the rest of my life that I was supposed to just accept things like Trump’s comments about sexual harassment, because I was a woman.

That I was supposed to be nice, and peaceful, and accommodating. That we were all supposed to just shush about this and move on, because, of course, he “didn’t mean it.”

I am an unmarried, white, Italian-American 29-year-old woman. I have a Master’s degree and a good job. I have a loving, middle-class family who supports me, and I am safe and insulated from most of Trump’s threats.

But I can’t say the same for women and men of color who are discriminated against in terrible, tiny ways every day, for my many LGBTQ friends and family members who, after hard-won victories for equality under Obama, still have to worry about walking in public holding hands with a person of the same sex, or for those who could be losing their healthcare, which could mean bankruptcy or death.

I can’t say the same when I walk down the street with my boyfriend, who has brown skin and a beard, and random old white men give us the middle finger—shout obscenities at us from a truck, tell him to “go back to his country.”

They don’t know that he’s a cancer researcher who might one day help to save someone they love, or that he volunteers at an animal shelter and runs charity races and knows how to make risotto. They also don’t know what country he’s from.

In my life I am luckier than many. Even if I endure it with my boyfriend, with my friends, I still don’t personally endure abuse on account of my skin color, religion or sexual orientation.

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But I am a woman. And that means I am in danger of being sexually harassed every time I walk outside of my door. I am, as every woman is, intensely and quietly aware of this fact, even when we don’t talk about it.

I wear a jacket or a shawl to cover my shoulders if I know I’ll be walking somewhere on my own at night. I try to have a hat to cover my long blonde hair, or carry a hair-tie to pull it up. I cross deserted streets when I see men coming towards me on my walk home.

I take short, intentional, furious steps while I glare and push ahead, chin up, keys jingling, pepper spray near, projecting that I am always only twenty feet from my destination. This is how I get home on my own at night.

If this seems dramatic or overly cautious, try being a woman walking through the city and deal with the constant catcalls. Or try being a woman going for a run on your own, and see if you feel safe. Three women were murdered this past year, just for running during the afternoon, just because they were outside in a secluded area, alone, and female.

As women, we do what we can—we try to walk one another as far home as we can manage, and solve the rest with an urgent “text me when you get home” plea.

And society teaches me that that is normal. That I shouldn’t talk too much about it, or how it affects me. That my only recourse is to act vigilantly—that if I get caught running on my own, walking on a dark road, or if I have too much to drink at a party, whatever happens to me is my fault.

I am tired of this charade that sexual violence is normal, and that the women who are less lucky than me were somehow at fault. I am tired of people being accepting of men who brutalize young women and blame it on drinking.

I am tired of people explaining away a sixty year-old man saying he has a right to grab women between the legs, whether they are married or not, because he has power.

I am tired of seeing Lauren Duca criticized by Tucker Carlson for caring about both Arianna Grande’s thigh-high boots and the societal implications of a Trump presidency.

I am tired of Duca having to tell him that she has a right to be here and also be a woman. I am tired of her being immediately and widely sexually harassed online as “punishment,” (Read her eloquent response to the harassment here).

I am tired of being silent. I am tired of putting my feelings aside to make sure everyone else is comfortable. Of being the peacemaker. Of being the nurturing woman.

I am tired of keeping quiet when someone is stomping all over my right to exist, and my right to be a woman, and my right to object to rape and sexual assault being glorified by the person ascending to the highest office in our country.

At sixty, Trump said you could commit sexual assault as long as you could get away with it.

At seventy, Trump suggested that the women who came forward about him sexually assaulting them were too ugly for him to rape.

Today, he will become the President of the United States of America.

I am tired, tired, tired of it.

I am smart, hard working, and driven. I paint my nails and I go to work. I try not to berate myself when I skip a workout and I have real, rational opinions about the state of the world. And I do not deserve to be raped.

I do not deserve to hear from anyone, let alone a man in the highest power, that it is okay for me to be raped.

I do not deserve to be told that joking about rape is normal.

I do not deserve this president.

And on Saturday, I will be marching in the Women’s March.

Because I’ve never deserved this—

But this time, I’m finally saying so.

 

Repealing the Affordable Care Act Is Immoral

Through the Affordable Care Act, I was able to stay on my parents’ healthcare until I was 26, and then buy healthcare for myself and pay it every month as I worked full-time building my business and career as an adjunct professor of English and a freelance magazine writer. My brother was able to buy his insurance through the ACA to work full time at a job that does not offer health insurance, while still writing and creating comics and recording and selling music, building his own career and business rather than being forced to work for an employer to get healthcare. Millions of others were able to afford payments for care through the ACA even though they suffer from cancer or another terrible disease, because of the provision not to deny healthcare based on a pre-existing condition. Repealing the ACA harshly punishes people who put everything into their own small businesses and dreams, and sentences others to bankruptcy and death. The ACA is imperfect and should be revised and improved in many ways, but that does not mean repealing it. In my opinion, repealing the ACA with no replacement is not only irresponsible but also completely immoral.

 

Esquire article on the repeal here: http://www.esquire.com/news-politics/politics/news/a52234/senate-obamacare-vote/

Why You Should Try Meditating While Running (and How to Do It)

meditationrunningginaI’m running down Kelly Drive in Philadelphia on an unseasonably warm fall day, my purple sneakers softly thudding against the ground. As I run, I notice a young boy skateboarding on the street, and the way his red hat flops to the side. I pass dry-looking trees and plump geese gathered in the grass next to the trail, and a couple kissing on a rock overlook. I notice the way the water ripples as a racing shell cuts cleanly through the center of the Schuylkill River and glides away from me.

Would you guess that I’ve been meditating this whole time?

Read the rest of my article in Runner’s World.